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“5 years ago today, I came out of the closet. Today, these are the clothes that came out of my closet.”
That mic-drop-worthy statement was brought to you by our latest #fashiontruth spotlight, Rye (who pointed out that she’d never actually drop a mic, because they’re very expensive!). Honest, eloquent moments are kind of Rye’s thing — she’s a stand-up comedian & writer by trade, and a long-time contributor to Style Gallery, ModCloth’s ever-evolving collection of community outfit pics. We always adore seeing Rye’s photos, but it’s her inspiring perspective that really has us floored.
Though originally from Ohio, Rye’s lived in both NYC and LA. In her own words, “I try to have new adventures or do things that scare me. That’s what my cross-country moves were about, and in a big way, my coming out as transgender. I’d started getting real open and honest onstage in my act, and one day I realized I couldn’t really be honest if I was living a lie. So I guess that’s what the most important thing is to me, living an honest, real life and not holding back. I waited years for someone to come along and tell me that it was okay to be myself before I finally realized that someone was me. That’s what fashion is all about for me — taking how you feel and using your style as an expression of that.”
The more we learned about Rye, the more we fell in love with her honesty, bravery, and sense of humor. Get to know her in our Q&A below, and scope out her favorite styles, including the All About Rye Dress! (And if you want even more, scope Rye’s blog, Chick Like Me, where you can find deets about her upcoming comedy album!)
How did you get into comedy? Who are your icons, and do you address LGBTQ issues in your act?
Comedy was something I knew I wanted to do all through my childhood, and then it kind of resurfaced again in my late teens. My first ever comedy role model was Steve Martin. He made me realize that being a comedian was a thing someone could do, like that it was a job. The first comic I ever saw live was Phyllis Diller, so that had a huge impact on me. At 19 I went to my first open mic and within a year I’d started getting some paid gigs and it just went from there for several years. Getting work when I could, writing up a storm. Eddie Izzard was very important in my own self acceptance and coming out as trans, and so was Ellen Degeneres in regards to the coming out part. I feel like her coming out made queer issues across the board something that got talked about publicly and not privately. At least in suburban Ohio.
I didn’t come out about being transgender till I was 27 though; basically that’s how old I was when I finally faced my fears about it and knew I couldn’t carry the secret of it, and was tired of feeling ashamed about it. My act had already started getting much more personal and honest and so coming out onstage seemed an obvious and necessary step. In general the audiences have been receptive, some occasional scary moments but overall I feel like if I can just get a few jokes out, I’ll be okay.
What are the most common, rude, strange or downright silly questions you get from people?
I think the downright most rude thing is when people flat out just ask me about my plans for transitioning, usually some variation on if I intend to have surgery or not, which is an extremely personal question if you break it down. It’s basically “So what’s up with your junk?” It’s also an issue because it puts an emphasis on specific treatments as being indicative of if someone is or isn’t ‘really’ trans. That can be a really dangerous attitude to run into for someone who’s just coming to terms with themselves or on the cusp of coming out.
Do you have a preferred pronoun? Do you think the English language (and others) should include a gender non-specific pronoun?
I prefer female pronouns. I think gender non-specific pronouns are great, and I advocate adjusting grammar snobbiness to allow for “they/them/theirs” to be used for gender neutral singular, but personally I’d rather go by the female stuff because that’s what feels right for me.
What’s one thing you would have people know about the trans community, or your own experiences as trans-identified person?
There isn’t one single driving narrative for transgender people. We come in a wide assortment of experiences and flavors and trying to force us all into one box of treatments or mentalities can be pretty destructive. Trans people, especially trans women of color, are severely targeted for violence and hatred, so there’s a great need for support, understanding, and compassion that is still sorely lacking. I think people need to let go of the idea that they have to fully understand trans identities in order to have support and compassion, but we’re literally dying while you try to figure it out.
In your blog you mention the concept of gender fluidity. What does that mean to you in general, and about your life in particular?
The way I view it is that it’s the approach of gender identity on a spectrum the same way sexuality is viewed on models like the Kinsey scale or Klein grid. Instead of viewing it as an argument of nature versus nurture, I tend to think of it as a complicated blend of the two. To me, it’s the idea that our identity isn’t a constant, but something that shifts and evolves through our whole lives, which I think is true outside of just gender. I find that to just be a good way to view life; it helps to roll with the punches and adapt to situations. More specific to me with gender identity stuff, I kind of view it as a way of acknowledging who I am at my heart — make no mistake, I’m a woman, but it’s about accepting the complications of my life, how I was raised, where I came from, as well as where I’m going.
We love your photos on Style Gallery. What was it like to submit for the first time?
I was looking for the featured blogger pages, and when I found the Style Gallery, I decided to see what would happen if I uploaded a picture. It took a couple of days to post, and I kind of felt defeated for a moment, like I’d been rejected — but then it posted, and I got really addicted to doing my OOTD shots. The Style Gallery did so much for me in regards to really gaining confidence to both assert my own style, as well as take risks and chances and draw inspiration. Everyone on there is doing so much fun stuff with their clothes, and it’s great to be part of that.
How would you describe your sense of style?
It evolves over time but I think right now my best way of describing it is a bit of a quirky or edgy twist on vintage. I love rockabilly-type stuff or circle skirts that have interesting prints on them. The two garments I currently get the most positive responses to are my Mewseum Visit Dress from ModCloth and my PacMan-themed circle skirt. I’ve noticed in the last year or so more and more of my skirts and dresses have fun prints. But when I’m kind of just looking for a more relaxed, chill look I shift into a more 90s vibe.
You’ve lived on both coasts and admit to having major wanderlust. What’s your dream destination, to visit or to live? If you could create the perfect place to ‘settle down,’ what would it be like?
My dream destination is the British Isles, especially Ireland and Scotland. I have a lot of Irish and Scotch-Irish blood on both sides of the family, and so I feel a calling to go there. But then my obsession with Doctor Who makes me want to go to Cardiff and London.
My perfect ‘settle-down’ destination would be somewhere with the totally progressive, welcoming vibes (and brunches) of Portland and a public transportation system equal to New York’s. Somewhere that I could get to nature quickly if I wanted to escape, but where I could live in a comfy city area with cafes, taverns, and grocery stores within walking distance. And with a Northern California climate, somewhere I can mostly wear tights and cardigans year round in comfort. Oh, and an airport I don’t have to jump through negotiation hoops with friends in order to get a ride to.
When that perfect place exists, Rye, we’ll meet you there for brunch.
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I’ve been following Rye on tumblr for a while and am really chuffed to see her featured here! I even learnt a few new things about her 🙂
Agreed! She’s amazing!
I loved modcloth before and I love it even more now. thank you for featuring stories about all different kinds of women! we are amazing and strong and I love that this shop has become an online community that allows us to empower, support, and lift each other up. keep on keepin on, rye! you are amazing. thanks for being true to yourself 🙂
I love love this piece! Way to go, Rye! (And way to go, Modcloth for spotlighting such an extraordinary person!)
I am not surprised at all to see Rye here! I am so pumped you featured her, she is so kickass and inspiring! Love you, Rye! Keep being you!
This was an amazing post to read, and I’m so happy Rye was featured!
Oh, I love Rye with both my hearts! I started following her after she posted an awesome Whovian outfit in the Style Gallery! I’m so totally excited that she’s the latest fashiontruth spotlight! Congratulations!
I love to see Rye in the style gallery. The style gallery is such a useful tool for me being a tall plus size girl. I am glad she provides another look to inspire people.
I always love seeing Rye in the Style Gallery — she has such great style. (Seriously, I can’t tell you how many of my outfits have been in some way Rye-inspired.) How great to swing by ModCloth this morning to see her on the front page!
So much love for this post. So much love. Way to be even more awesome Modcloth. And Rye, you’re one awesome woman, I can’t wait to check out your blog!
Love this! That cat dress (and cat eye!) is fab.
Rye is a rock star. This hit me right in the gut: “I think people need to let go of the idea that they have to fully understand trans identities in order to have support and compassion, but we’re literally dying while you try to figure it out.” Thank you for being brave and speaking truth, and living and dressing fabulously!
Rye is a sweetheart and an inspiration to us all. She is so strong and deserves all the love and support she can get. And bonus points for being a Whovian;) I hope you get your European vacation soon!
I always see her in the style gallery and she always looks killer. Keep it up Rye <3
Thank you for the wonderful interview! It went well with my mid-morning coffee and was a great pick-me up on a Monday morning.
beautifully done and well said!
Thanks so much for publishing this article and providing exposure. Wear what you want and what makes you both physically and mentally comfortable. And Rye, my hope for you is to have peace, love, and joy throughout your life!
Love this Q&A and huge kudos to both Ryan and ModCloth for getting this put together. As an added bonus I heart the “All About Rye” dress! Congrats Rye and best wishes!
I’ve been creeping Rye’s Mod Gallery for a long time, and have secretly wanted to run amok in her closet like a crazy person. I’m so excited to see her here and and the All about Rye dress is perfectly darling! Congrats to you Rye for being the monthly spotlight!
It was very cool to see this on your site today! Love all the support!
Way to go, Rye!
So happy to see Rye on the website!!! Such an amazing and inspiring person. Thank you for sharing her story!
Thank you for this feature. Makes me a more enthusiastic customer!
What a great feature! I love that ModCloth includes everyone! And Rye is awesome, love the outfits!
Rye’s got the cutest outfits!
Rye is the best! Loved this! Great pic!!
The city you are talking about is Vancouver! We’ve got it all 😉
I was gonna say DC!
This is sick! I’m not buying clothes from here ever again.
🙁 How is this sick? I can’t believe that people are still so against the LGBTQ. I mean seriously! Stop with the negativity! Be accepting of everyone, regardless of race, gender, or sexual orientation! Rye, you are such an inspiration! 😀
That is ok. My Transwoman fiancee would probably tell you I buy enough ModCloth stuff for two people.
Kudos for coming out of the closet and sharing your honesty, Dre!
Funny enough, I think ModCloth would prefer you buy your clothes somewhere else. Bye bye! Don’t let the door hit your bigot butt on the way out!
Dre, Rye isn’t hurting anyone, including you, by being who she is. You’re the one actually trying to do harm by condemning her. What business is it of yours if Rye wants to wear a dress? She has as much right to do so as you do. You’re absolutely entitled to your opinion, short-sighted though it may be. However, we’re also entitled to call you out on it. Every day, more and more people are expressing their support of the LGBTQ community . You’re on the wrong side of history, and though I can’t speak for ModCloth, I don’t think they’ll miss a customer like you.
Even if you don’t understand trans identified people, what does it matter to you? How is this person hurting you in any shape or form?
Sick is people who murder, and treat others like garbage. Rye is sweet and stylish. Who cares what gender she identifies with or what she was born?
I’m not transgendered and I don’t claim to understand how they feel, but what I do know is that I don’t want people judging me on physical traits (and I’m sure a bigot like you would naturally just assume that I am fat and ugly because people like you think that anyone who accepts and defends others must be so) and I dont care what you think. You are insecure with your own identity, and probably were raised that you had to be a certain way and never questioned it.
At least this person can articulate her thoughts and opinions clearly and effectively. Naive people like you just spout negative comments with insults. Everyone is entitled to opinions, but as such- I’m entitled to think that you are likely uneducated and probably most people think that you are unintelligent and can’t stand you. You know what? You’re going to tell me that I’m a stupid fat whatever and am wrong. You know? You’ll never know the truth of what people really think of you because most people are too kind to tell you.
Rye- I don;t struggle with gender identity, but my whole life I have struggled with my identity and being accepted for who I am because I didn’t want to be a ignorant asshole just to fit in). I give you so much props for having the courage to be yourself. Not just because I am sure you feel liberated by finally loving yourself and realizing that its who you are inside that counts, and not what you’ve got under your clothes that matter but because there are so many people out there struggling that need to see that there are others out there paving the way for acceptance. Plus, my heart is so warmed to see all of the positivity here way outweighs the negative.
I’ve never shopped at modcloth before, but after reading this scumbags comment- I will be shopping here and referring everyone I know.
Rye- I want that dress so bad!
Good! The clothes are too good for bigots.
I think its sort of funny (not ha ha) that everyone that commented is so quick to judge Dre and accuse her (him maybe) of being close minded but, seriously people, everyone is entitled to their opinion; the backlash proves just how close minded people really are.
In response to “me”: It’s not that we are so quick to “judge,” it’s that we see an article featuring someone who is very brave (and stylish!) and unapologetically themselves and then see a comment like the one Dre left that tries to tear this person down. Calling Dre out on being close minded does not make us close minded as well. Just means we stand up for equality and love.
Yes, everyone is entitled to their own opinion but when a person’s opinion is rude and, honestly, quite immature, everyone else has just as much right to call him/her out and encourage them to educate themselves on issues like this.
I’m so tired of the “people are entitled to their beliefs and opinions” as an excuse for spreading hatred, prejudice, and bigotry. First, perhaps if Dre had said, I don’t understand people that identify as trans gender and being so is against the way I was raised so I can’t support it”, people may not have been quite as angry, however Dre’s comment was rude and mean spirited. Second, you can’t use the “entitled to their opinion” successfully in an argument. Do you understand that the people who respond to a post with a different opinion are, in fact, ALSO entitled to their beliefs and opinions as much as Dre is? So the argument cancels itself out. Third, people are entitled to their opinion, yes, but that does NOT make it ok to treat another human being poorly because you don’t share the same opinion. I don’t care WHAT your opinion is, it’s NEVER ok. Arguing that it is, in essence, telling people it is ok to verbally assault and knock down the esteem (or worse) of others that don’t share your opinion, and that’s just asinine.
As a fairly new customer (past few months) of Modcloth’s and as the mother of a gender-creative four-year-old child, I am so inspired and touched by this interview that I feel like I could sit here and bawl. Thank you for a community in which all of us can be accepted. I love your clothes, I adore that your buyers review and post outfits, your customer service has rocked both times I’ve used it, and now this open-heartedness and bravery? I feel like I’ve stumbled onto a treasure here. As I tell my four-year-old who says they look like a boy on the outside but feel like a girl on the inside who wears dresses out in our rather conservative community: we all deserve to feel beautiful and loved for all that we are. Modcloth, thank you for making my day. This is one of the many reasons why I have become a loyal customer. And thank you, Rye, for living your truth so wonderfully. You are lovely.
CUUUUUUUUTE! So happy to see this featured. Rye is just brimming with style!
I loved this so so much… I have friends who are going through the same thing. All they need is the love and support to help them become the person they dream to be. Her style is so great and an inspiration to me every week. Thank you so much for posting this. It made my day and it that is a big thing…
I applaud you, Rye, for your bravery and also your WONDERUL style and great taste in dresses.
Wow, I loved this. Beautiful!
This post is awesome!
This is so inspiring to read. It is such an important message for everyone to hear in a world where being yourself can have such negativity surrounding it. Thank you for sharing your beautiful soul and story with the world.
This made me smile so much, what a great interview!
“That’s what fashion is all about for me — taking how you feel and using your style as an expression of that.” Thank you, Rye!
I am SO SO SO happy Modcloth decided to feature Rye! She is so gorgeous and such a great model for Modcloth clothes <3
Amazing. Woman, story, venue for the story. I’ve loved Rye even before I came to know her. I use to heart all her outfits. How can you not love her style? As a woman who embrace her own sense of style in spite of what others think I give HIGH FIVE to Rye and ModCloth for featuring her. Way to go. Much love to all women.
Love this feature!!! What an inspiring piece!
I remember when I first saw a post from Rye in the style gallery. I quickly browsed through all of them. I love her sense of style and the way she put things together. I’m so glad she’s such a great person to boot. 🙂
As a queer lady, Modcloth’s LGBTQ love makes me So damn happy.
Rye, amazing. Thank you for sharing your story.
I’ve been enjoying Rye’s Modcloth pics since I discovered this website a couple of years ago. I was so excited when I saw that she had been interviewed. What a powerful story, and what an inspirational lady!
Thanks Modcloth, and thanks Rye for sharing your story xx
Thank you, ModCloth! And I just have to say how AWESOME it is to read so many positive comments. Sometimes I forget how AMAZING people are. I’ll just come here next time I forget. <3
Awesome interview with Rye! I had the pleasure of working with her in the past.
This is incredible. Thank you for highlighting Rye – reading about her was a delight! And her cardigan choices to pair with her dresses are A+.
Rye, may you continue to be kind, caring, compassionate, sensitive, and respectful of all whom you encounter as they also strive to be honest with their knowledge of who they are and what they feel is expected of them through this sojourn on earth!
This article makes me love Modcloth even more. And to know there are so many kind, strong and accepting strangers in this world is beyond amazing. I love this generation that I’m a part of! Kudos Rye and Kudos Modcloth!!
This made me so very, very happy 🙂 🙂 🙂
Rye has some great style! Mostly because we own a lot of the same dresses 😉 She’s an inspiration!
I love MODCLOTH because of how inclusive they are. Thank you for sharing your story Rye, you are an amazing person!
I love you Rye! You’re an inspiration! Keep looking fabulous!
Rye you are amazing and are WORKING IT! Your style and spirit shines through. Thanks ModCloth for highlight such an awesome woman!
Thank you Modcloth for telling the story of Rye. I’m really super happy that all the comments have been positive. I’m so happy to be a part of a community of acceptance and love.
Rock on Rye!
What a cool lady! I’m really enjoying Modcloth’s vibe and Rye’s style. Awesomesauce. *nods*
Opening up Modcloth and seeing this feature on the front page made my day. As a transgender person myself, I try to be very intentional about the kind of businesses I support, and this feature was a wonderful reminder to me of why I love to support Modcloth. I’ve been nervous about submitting to the style gallery myself, but after seeing this, maybe I will! I can’t wait to share this wonderful interview with all of my friends. Thank you so much Modcloth, and thank you Rye for being such a hip fashionista! <3
This is totally disgusting, first of all stop calling HIM a she HE is a man. Second of all I know you all think your cool and hip and Trendy saying this is ok but is NOT. He obviously has a problem. And people like you encouraging HIM and others like HIM is what’s running our society
First of all, on a purely physical level: have you personally her genitalia? Her chromosome patterns? No? Then you’re not qualified to make ANY kind of judgement on her sex. For all you know her bits and pieces are female. So, you don’t get to make that call on that level alone. I know women who can “pass” as men, and have been called out as “men” in a women’s restroom, and they have female sex organs, and they do not identify as transgender. So, no, you don’t get to make that call. Ever.
Secondly, yes, she does have a problem. Her problem is recognized by EVERY major medical association in the US, and in fact, the world. There are mounds of evidence piling up that this condition is a biological one, not merely some psychological problem to be solved. Furthermore, her transition is the currently accepted medical treatment. Attempting so-called reparative therapy (counseling a person into their biologically apparent gender) is thoroughly debunked and rejected in the professional psychological community. It doesn’t work. It increases suicidal tendencies and does not make the issue go away.
What clothes she does or does not wear has no real effect on you. It’s her body, not yours. It doesn’t “ruin society” in any measurable or tangible way. What does ruin society is negative attitudes and people trying to “fix” trans* folks like her in ways that significantly damage them long term.
Heather, you’re the one with the problem. Speaking as a psychotherapist, I will say the only “problem” people who are trans have is suffering through ignorance and cruelty of the sort you just expressed. And if being accepting of all people, no matter their gender, is cool and hip and trendy, then I hope that trend continues. It will save lives. Also: thanks to the typo, your last sentence is dead on– open, compassionate, and understanding people are running society. NOT bigots. So thanks!
Rye is not the disgusting one, you are. You can’t even back up your claims with evidence. How are people like her ruining our society? Hmm? Can you think of anything? I didn’t think so!
Also, are you saying that being transgender or gay is not acceptable? What are you gonna do about it, kill them? Do you suggest that we should kill them just because they are different? Or how about we force them into being straight? Do you think that is a better idea?
This is as bad as racism and sexism. What a hateful person you are.
ACCEPTANCE AND EQUALITY FOR ALL!
Being a decent human being isn’t about being cool or trendy. I feel really sad for you, Heather, that you can read an inspiring interview like this from a clearly beautiful woman, inside and out, and say to yourself “This is what’s ruining society.” I hope you take some time to think about your worldview, because you’re missing out on the good stuff, sister, if you can’t take something positive from this. Consider for a moment who really has a problem here.
YOU are ruining society and YOU have a problem. Just let people live their lives and stay out of it. Are they trying to control YOUR life? Didn’t think so…
No Heather, What is ruining society is people who insist that their way is the only way ant that there is no room for anything else. If you are happy and comfortable in your life. Awesome, I’m happy for you. That doesn’t mean that any one else needs to live their life like you do or that someone living their life very differently is doing anything wrong. May you find the peace and comfort and love in your own life to stop worrying about other peoples genitals.
I assume you mean “ruining” our society. Because society would be much better if people like HER and people who encourage HER and others like HER were running our society. People like you who have absolutely narrow minds and cannot accept anything or anyone that is different than themselves are what is wrong with society.
Think about that one time someone said something to you that was just plain mean.
Think about how you felt. That sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach, the fact that even after the fact, it still stings a little, and the fact that those memories and feelings will be with you forever. The comments you make on this website, however anonymous, have that same power to hurt not just Rye, but those who know her, love her, and support her. They hurt people who are encouraged by her strength to be who she is and who are trying to summon their own courage to be who they are, but then see comments like yours, and instead, live a life that was not meant for them.
If you don’t like something, or the way someone chooses to live, that’s fine. I suspect that there is nothing anyone could say or do to change your mind. But if you don’t like something, then don’t look. Don’t comment, don’t spew hatred, don’t say anything at all. Just ignore it. Rye, and others like her, are not hurting you. You, however, are hurting them.
Completely agree, I was looking at a dress I liked and the pics of people who had bought and posted – I saw HIS photo and thought umm okay – went through some more and saw that he was all over the website – it wouldnt be an issue to me if he attempted to be more feminen like grow his hair or actually take hormones to grow breasts but he clearly hasn’t. He looks like he is just wearing a dress and that is it. Quite dissapointing by modcloths standards!
And before anyone chooses to complain I have a right to my own opinion just like he chooses to dress like a woman. I know this will probably not be left on here long but that’s my opnion and I am sticking to it.
It’s trendy to offer compassion and acceptance to human beings who others are working so hard marginalize? Good! For the first time in life I’m “on trend.”
And with all the violence going on in the world and the overwhelming threat of abuse to women and children (just for starters), you think THIS is what’s ruining society? You think THIS is disgusting? You may want to reevaluate your values.
It’s fine for you to not understand Rye’s mind and you can even speak it, but be clear that when you do try to put HER down due to your ignorance, we’re going to stand up and defend HER.
I love ModCloth’s products and policy. Will definitely continue to shop here.
I completely agree with you Heather. Romans 1 speaks all about this. http://bit.ly/1r5pSJs
thank you for introducing me to Rye.
Loved you on Todd Glass’ podcast the other week! And your style is fantastic!
This was such an awesome read. I’m so glad that she’s doing her own thing and being true to herself. And I have to say that I love every one of her picks. She’s got great style!
I loved this interview! This is exactly who I want to see featured on fashion websites that I purchase from.
I sent an email to the newsletter team but wanted to say THIS IS AWESOME. SO AWESOME.
Great Article and well done Rye. I am a tour guide in Ireland, you should visit soon, Dublin is a great city and Ireland is stunning. Rye, bring me a suitcase full of pretty modcloth dresses I order and in return I give you a guided tour of Dublin and introduce you to some nice people here, how about that??
Right on Rye! What a smart, funny, stylish PERSON you are! (“they/them/theirs” for individuals bugs the bejeezuz outta me too)
I’ve enjoyed seeing Rye’s style on Modcloth and it’s great to read her story here.
Thank you Rye for being courageous enough to share your story and an inspiration to everyone trying to find themselves and be themselves! And way to go Modcloth for showing your solidarity with all women, cys and transgender alike!
ModCloth has always been very supportive of all kinds of women. I’m very proud that I’m a customer of this awesome website. I’m so glad there are places like ModCloth where ladies like Rye can express herself and feel supported, adored and loved 🙂
Thanks Rye! That was really insightful and also–AWESOME outfit.
Rye, you are hilarious to look at in your womens’ wear! You remind me of the good old days of comedy when a guy would dress like a girl in the movies for the comic effect that is immediately obvious. In that sense you are definitely retro and vintage! I can no more take this look on a man’s physique seriously than could the small boy in the crowd who blurted out the truth in the story of “The Emperor’s New Clothes” about the Emporer’s nakedness. I applaud your theatrical and comical success as a stand up comedian! I absolutely adore everything about the Modcloth dress that carries your name and will love seeing it on a woman who actually looks like a woman and in fact is a woman. I must admit though, it will be a knee slapper if I get to see a photo of you in it. Seriously, Rye, I wish you the best in the illusions you apparently create for some. To each his/her own! Live and let live!
Way to show your ignorance in a public forum. And it’s really not enough for you to be ignorant, you have to be an ass about it?
I totally agree with you Shannon!
http://www.recycledbabies.com/images/Rye-Silverman.jpg I would like to see this good looking guy named Rye come back to us!
Rye indeed was good-looking as a male, I agree it’s sad to lose a good-looking man. It’s just Rye doesn’t seem to like her look as a man. I guess her happiness from being a woman trumps our sadness of losing a cute guy 🙂
I think Rye makes a perfectly cute woman, as well. But regardless of whether I find her attractive or not, why would you want to have somebody ‘go back’ to unhappiness and depression? I know a transgendered woman in real life and she is so much happier now that she is taking hormone replacements and feeling more ‘feminine’ everyday, feeling the way she should be. Her life as ‘Brad’ was a dark one. Same goes for Rye. Why would you want her to go back to a life where she was not happy, just because you found her more attractive as a man? Seriously? I don’t understand people.
I LOVE this article!!! I am a transgender & gender nonconforming specialized psychotherapist, trans educator and advocate and this just made me smile! I also LOVE Modcloth, so this was just super-special!!! Rye is awesome, brave and has terrific style and taste. So proud of her and I am so happy to see Modcloth sharing and showcasing diversity. I have goosebumps and tears after reading this. Sooooo happy right now. I have always loved this company from day #1 and now I love it even more. Thank you!!!!
Rye is one of the funniest, most creative, and most courageous people I could ever hope to meet. I am proud to claim her as a personal friend. And I am filled with joy at the overwhelming positivity of the comments here! This has made my day!
This is why I continue to spend my money here. THANK YOU!
Obsessed with Doctor Who! I love this girl even more! Don’t think I didn’t notice that TARDIS bag!
This is amazing! I’m so proud of you, Modcloth!
Modcloth, this feature just endeared me to you FOR LIFE. Unconditional love of diversity will make this world the place I want my babies to grow up in.
I love Modcloth. For it’s inclusiveness. For the fact that you put all size beautiful women in bathing suits. And for this!! Because it’s what all clothing companies should do. Go Rye and great job Modcloth.
What a beautiful thing to see on the front page of ModCloth! Thank you so much for sharing this inspiration!
I gotta say that I am so thrilled to see a company embracing trans people the way they have now. While there’s still a long way to go for equality for all, companies like ModCloth are a major step forward. I commend both ModCloth and Rye for keeping true to who they are! Keep up the amazing work!
Great interview! She has style and a great attitude. Love the quote “I waited years for someone to come along and tell me that it was okay to be myself before I finally realized that someone was me.” Thank you!
I love you Rye!!
LOVE YOU RYE!!!! You are my role MODEL!!!!
S/he’s a comedian. She literally has to do nothing to get the laughs. Inspiring!
THANK YOU MODCLOTH!!! Thank you for highlighting such a beautiful trans lady! A lot of businesses shy away from the trans community and it takes some REAL integrity to showcase someone who is rocking your styles no matter their gender status. Big high fives and giant KUDOS to you!! And super cute Rye! WOW!! Seriously girl you are doin it right, all the things! Come to the salty land of Salt Lake City and make us all laugh real hard! I’ll make you dinner! XOXOXOXOXO
Awe-inspiring. More like this! You are beautiful!
I always loved Modcloth for their inclusivity of plus sizes, the Photoshop ban and the community. This article is fabulous! I totally agree with Rye. The only thing keeping us back from a peaceful world is the ability of individuals to love someone they don’t understand. There is plenty of support and compassion to go around. Thank you for this great article and way to go Rye!
ModCloth should be cautious about posting something so controversial on their homepage. As a conservative woman, I don’t support this and it makes me feel skeptical about shopping from here.
I’m conservative too and we will all be dead someday and it doesn’t matter. I will double per month what you decide not to spend.
Good for you Modcloth! You are celebrating a wonderful supporter of your business for the beautiful PERSON they are. That takes courage but really shows so much integrity for your company. And thank you Rye for being who you are (and also for rocking those gorgeous Modcloth dresses)!
I think, based on the overwhelmingly positive comments, they can do without you. I hope, of course, that you can get over your prejudices and support a positive company that embraces everyone, even conservatives. 🙂
Nikki, thank you for having the courage to voice your opinion. I agree with you. I don’t have anything against transgender people, but I am disappointed that ModCloth is mixing politics with business. People can live the way they want to, but I should be able to buy clothes without having values pushed on me. If ModCloth really wants to be welcoming, they should be sensitive to all political persuasions and faiths rather than using their website as a soapbox for one viewpoint. I wonder if we’ll ever see a profile of a customer who has chosen to save sex for marriage modelling a white wedding gown.
I don’t know where you get soapbox from because this clearly isn’t one. Modcloth celebrates ALL women and if you can’t understand that, then it’s your problem.
Sara, ModCloth is not pushing values on anybody. ModCloth is just embracing diversity. This has absolutely nothing to do with politics whatsoever. And what does “saving sex for marriage” have anything to do with this either?
Thank you, Sara! I agree! This spotlight highlights a very small special interest group; a niche.
If you’re so offended by it, then don’t read it. Just buy your clothes that make you feel so great and feminine and go live your life. Censorship never solved anything. And one person’s visibility does not need to affect the way you live your life if you don’t want it to.
And also about business – along with the noble ethical principles of inclusiveness and celebration of diversity, it is probably great business for modcloth to celebrate trans women in particular. My hunch is that trans women are big business for online women’s clothing suppliers. If you think it hurts reading hateful anonymous comments from people who are offended by the core of your identity, it really hurts to get those comments out loud in person.
This is a safe space, let’s keep it that way.
I loooooooooooove that Modcloth gives women of all shapes and sizes the freedom to be who they are. Everyone deserves to feel beautiful! Rye more power to you sister, good luck on your next adventure!! XOXO
I am so so so sad to have opened my email up for Modcloth and see what appeared to be a man dressed in a woman’s clothes. As I further investigated, it hurt my heart to realize that what my eyes saw was true. There is absolutely nothing whatsoever natural about this. Rye is not a she…Rye is a he. He was born male, and to call him a girl, woman, whatever, is a lie to him, the world, and yourself. For Rye to say he is a woman, is no different that trying to call a potato a carrot. There is no way to convince me or anyone else with common sense, that a potato is a carrot. Why do you never see a man dressed up in a flirty dancing outfit and spinning around with another man on Dancing With The Stars? and why, on the Bachelor/Bachelorette do you not see a man mixed in with the girls, or a woman mixed in with the men? Because it’s just not right and deep down our society knows it. You don’t see a Disney princess being rescued by her true love, a woman, do you? No. It’s a man. Why does this society not only accept, but lift up onto a pedestal, the act of giving up unnatural relations? Why do we say it is okay to freely express your lifestyle and be openly gay/lesbian, but it is COMPLETELY unacceptable for someone to express their belief that gay/lesbian lifestyle is wrong? Do you not see the double standard? If you dislike/judge homosexuality, you are disliked and judged. If you feel that homosexuality is wrong and choose to boycott it, you are labelled wrong and are boycotted. How does that even make sense? Why is it okay for gays and lesbians to force their beliefs into society, but religious freedom is totally intolerable? Double standards. I am not saying in any way that we should shun homosexuals and hate them. We are called to love them, but we are not supposed to permiss their behavior. I don’t at all hate Rye or even Modcloth for featuring him. It is not too late for him to change his lifestyle and stop living in this sin, as it is not too late for any others. Don’t give in to the pressure of society to “come out” or accept strange and unnatural thoughts in your head. There will always be unnatural thoughts, due to hormones going a little crazy, as they always do. This doesn’t mean you’re gay. And if you tell yourself you are, you’re lying to yourself and ultimately trying to convince yourself that you, a potato, are a carrot. You are what you were born as. No matter what. Don’t defy nature and try and change that.
Why are you equating transexualism to homosexuality. I really shows your lack of understanding of a community that has always existed, but due to society had to live in misery behind the shadows of the night. Instead of judging, just love you will be happier in your life.
To answer your question: “Why do we say it is okay to freely express your lifestyle and be openly gay/lesbian, but it is COMPLETELY unacceptable for someone to express their belief that gay/lesbian lifestyle is wrong?”, I will ask you another question. Why is it okay for someone to embrace one’s culture, but it is COMPLETELY unacceptable to insult someone’s race (i.e. calling someone a n****r)? Why is it okay to embrace your womanhood, but it is COMPLETELY unacceptable to talk derogatorily to a female? Because we are in a MODERN society who accepts EVERYONE!! Is that too much for you to handle? Is it??
But if you do “feel that homosexuality is wrong,” I suppose you can’t change your beliefs, However, our society does not allow you “boycott it”, you just have to KEEP YOUR BELIEFS TO YOURSELF. We say that our society encourages freedom of speech, but in reality, it doesn’t. For example, you get fired immediately if you say the n- word at work. That is just the way it is, deal with it.
And Rye is not lying to herself about being gay! You are just living in a world of lies as you try to convince yourself that homosexuality doesn’t exist. That’s right! Rye is not the one trying to convince herself something unnatural, its you!
In conclusion, I am so disappointed that people like you are still stuck in their intolerant beliefs. So do the world a favor, and SHUT IT. If you agree with me, reply to this comment!
P.S. Thanks Rye for being so inspirational!
Well said Ashley!
Actually Ashley, Lindsey and Nikki are on point.. I’m disappointed in Modcloth too. But of course people like to throw racism in the mix, which has nothing to do with this subject. Racism was brought about via history and slavery, which was for most part abolished, however believe it or not there are still issues with this in parts of this country, as well as places like South Africa (apartheid). Based on how someone looks, not the lifestyle they choose. If you realize that your/this world’s Opinion is sin and that the Truth is in the bible against this, you would understand that God formed woman to be with a man. I don’t see anywhere stated where this is different. People get the wrong idea and assume that others who don’t agree with this Sin, are “haters”..? But we are called to love all of God’s creation, whether in sin or not. I know people who are like this and love them and pray for them. We may not agree, but we hope that they break away from this, as well as other sins, and some have.
If you believe in God and His word then you will see that there are many scriptures that speak against these things. People don’t realize, that others who don’t worship in God, weren’t raised christian, think this is ok. But for lack of knowledge (of God’s word) for those who Claim to be christian,don’t think about it because of what their peers think is ok.. Never speak their belief…READ. As this world gets closer to an end, these things, along with wars and persecution against Christians, will occur more. just saying. Its in Revelation, True “inspiration”. Take it or leave it.
I hate to break it to you Tina, but the Bible was written hundreds of years ago by bigoted, sexist men.
I don’t understand why people use the Bible to validate their ideas, while they completely disregard other parts of the Bible. Leviticus condemns people who are homosexual. However, it also states that women are unclean and implies that their sole importance is giving birth to males. In the Bible, women are treated as property.
You are just picking and choosing what parts of the Bible to support, which you believe are “still valid” today. For example, we would all obviously not treat women like they often do in the Bible, because in modern society, we believe that this treatment is “immoral”.
But what if Rye chooses to disregard the part about homosexuality? What if she believes that the part that denounces homosexuality is “invalid” in today’s society? What if she believes that bigotry against the LGBTQ is “immoral”? How is that different from you disregarding the sexist part?
Also, who told you that “God formed woman to be with a man”? The Bible? God didn’t write the Bible. Even if the biblical writers were inspired by God to write the Bible, that means that they were also inspired by God to write that sexist part about females. Have you ever thought of that?
Ashley, have you ever read the whole bible? One can’t accuse it if they have never read all of it. That shows they only believe things they want to and they are picking and choosing. I’d like you to have a good read, and then see what you think.
I just cannot comprehend how someone could possibly think that being homosexual or transgender is sinful. It is not a crime!
Rye is not choosing a “sinful” lifestyle, but one that makes her happy. Is that so wrong? She is not harming anyone or anything.
And racism actually does have a lot to do with this topic. Race and sexual orientation is not just a lifestyle, it is who you are. Your sexual orientation is not just choosing to live your life a certain way, it is who you were born as. You cannot change your sexual orientation, as you cannot change your race. You cannot change who you are.
At what age did you choose to be straight Tina?
So, let me make sure I’ve got this right:
– other person’s choices that have zero impact on you “hurt your heart”
– other person’s “life is a lie”
– other person’s life is not “common sense”
– other person’s life is “just not right”
– other person’s life is “unnatural”
– but you are “not saying in any way that we should shun ‘homosexuals’ and hate them”?
– and Rye is “forcing their beliefs into society” but you’re not by insisting her entire life is wrong and she should stop iiving it that way?
Lindsey, I couldn’t agree more. This is really hard to look at. He is a man and regardless of how hip it is to pretend it’s okay, deep down, we all know this isn’t natural. I’m very upset that Modcloth would support this. I used to consider myself a supporter of this site, however I’m embarrassed to say so now. It’s SO unfortunate that people are encouraging this and advertising it.
Nikki, you and Lindsey keep saying that it is “unnatural” to have a different sexual orientation. How would you feel if you were forced to dress like a man? Wouldn’t that seem unnatural to you? This is exactly how Rye would feel if she were forced into wearing men’s clothes. It feels natural for Rye to to dress like a female, is that so wrong? Again, I am truly disappointed that we still live in such a backwards society.
That doesn’t make it more natural…I’m not saying it’s not difficult for him I’m just saying that if you’re born with a penis, that’s what you have. You can’t “decide” to be a woman just as much as an Asian person can’t decide to be Indian. You can try to make it work as much as you want, but at the end of the day, this man is never going to be able to give birth or breastfeed, which makes a woman a woman.
That is true, but I don’t understand why people have to judge her for her decision. If she is happy wearing female clothes, who are we to judge? She did not commit a crime by being transgender.
And by the way, Indian people are Asian (India belongs in the continent of Asia).
We are all women by default. Males only become a PHENOTYPIC male when the testes determining factor expresses and transcribes proteins to begin differentiation. TDF is found on the Y chromosome. Sometimes, the TDF gene is on the X chromosome (I won’t go into details here how that happens). This means a genotypic FEMALE (XX) will actually look and become a phenotypic male!! (still XX) Do you know about Turner syndrome? Those persons only have one X chromosome. And they are female, but have a rudimentary uterus. They cannot give birth or breastfeed, but they are very much “recognized” by persons such as yourself, a “woman.” Oh, did you actually want to talk about the science and biology behind gender? I had to take a moment from my medical school studies to school you a little bit. Knowledge is power. Why don’t you read a book before you open your mouth, or else you’ll get bigot all over your shirt. Next time, don’t judge a book by its cover. You have NO idea what is inside.
Mina, you don’t need to have a medical degree to understand the difference between male and female. Rye will never be a woman.
Also, you are a condescending and sad example of a doctor. I think you’re the one who should read a book before you speak. It’s called the Bible. You may think you’re intelligent, by whatever means you feel to interpret that, but I’m telling you you’re wrong. I hope for your sake and for everyone else who is encouraging this nonsense that you come to understand the error of your ways. It might make you feel free to run from the truth, but it will catch up with you some day.
Lol do you even understand what being transgendered actually MEANS?! Please go and educate yourself (and to tell someone to read the Bible, which is fiction, is laughable). And to say that giving birth or breastfeeding makes you a woman is extremely narrow-minded. What about those ‘women’ who were born without a uterus? Those who cannot breast-feed for whatever reason? No. You’re the one brainwashed here, sorry to say.
Thank you, Lindsey, for being straightforward with honesty and yet compassionate and inclusive of every one of us (ladies, that is)! I absolutely love the truths you have shared here. I am leery of what may be lurking in a lady’s rest room in the near future. I fear for the innocence of children and the twisted “truths” of our society that are multiplying like weeds. I hope the Style Gallery does not turn into the Drag Cloth Gallery. So Susan, owner of Modcloth, will we be seeing drag queens modeling some of the items you sell on your site any time soon? Is Rye perhaps going to debut as your first official drag queen, transgender, and whatever other label he is known as or comes up with by the time he is perhaps showcased again on the merchandise pages? I have personally experienced the crude side of how Rye acts when he is not met with acceptance/approval of his devious ways. In fact I have found it is always this way for those defending ungodly acts: They bully and get mean and nasty in their comments. I guess Modcloth is eager for any publicity they can get. Good for business?
Actually the definition of bullying is “the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively dominate others” (Wikipedia). I don’t believe I’m doing any of this.
Maybe I’m a little nasty in these comments, but I’m just trying to get my point across. My point is that what do you expect people to do if they have a different sexual orientation? It is not right to make a person change themselves just so you don’t have to look at them in the restroom. If dressing like a female makes Rye more happy with herself, so be it!
Also, you said that Rye gets rude when people don’t accept her. Wouldn’t you act a bit rudely if someone doesn’t accept you for who you are (i.e. if you are discriminated against your race or religion)?
And I truly thank you for calling Rye and her lifestyle “ungodly” (talk about being nasty!).
” I have personally experienced the crude side of how Rye acts when he is not met with acceptance/approval of his devious ways. In fact I have found it is always this way for those defending ungodly acts: They bully and get mean and nasty in their comments. ”
If this is the attitude that informs your interactions with a person who identifies as trans, can you really expect that it would go any differently? If I, as an atheist, were to come to you and clearly state, or even give off the vibe, that I thought Christianity made people stupid, bigoted, mean, and nasty, would we have a very good conversation? Or would you be defensive because I pose as superior, even if I’m trying to ‘help’? If you can’t approach another human being with a modicum of respect for your shared humanity, you’re not going to get very far. You might disagree with Rye’s identity, but you’re still both human beings with inherent worth and dignity, and pretending any differently makes you a terrible excuse for a compassionate, Christ-following person. Rye is still Rye, no matter what you think. If you don’t like transfolk, don’t be one; it’s that simple. There’s nothing else you can or should do, except maybe go read the parts of the New Testament where Jesus is nice to everyone. Oh, and you might also want to brush up on the difference between sex and gender, and between sexual identity and sexual preference, for future reference, because queer folk of all stripes have been here for a long time, and they aren’t going away.
So we’re supposed to be nice when people make us feel uncomfortable and outright misgender us, demean us, minimize our story, call us “ungodly sinners” when the Word of God says YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO JUDGE, and so many other nasty things. We’re supposed to return the relentless nastiness we recieve on a daily basis with kindness?! I think not. I’m done being nice to the people who continually make me feel uncomfortable.
Kate, your comment is SPOT ON. Thank you!
Good for you Modcloth! You are celebrating a wonderful supporter of your business for the beautiful PERSON they are. That takes courage but really shows so much integrity for your company. And thank you Rye for being who you are (and also for rocking those gorgeous Modcloth dresses)! Hate, bigotry, and ignorance should never be supported for their dollars in a business-setting. I promise that the people who support and are moved by what you are doing far outweigh the people who will scream disdain and hateful remarks over it.
It seemed conservative and religious people tend to be against this. Well I’m religious too (Buddhism), Buddhism doesn’t seem to encourage gay/lesbian/transgender either. But I still support Rye and ModCloth, because I just feel we should encourage people to be what they WANT to be, which is natural. I agree it’s unnatural to encourage men to dress up like women when they WANT to be men. But Rye WANTs to be a woman, therefore it is natural for her to dress up like woman. And it is unnatural to suppress her feelings of WANTing to be a woman and for her to dress up like a man.
‘Why is it okay for gays and lesbians to force their beliefs into society, but religious freedom is totally intolerable? Double standards.’ My response: everyone is free to say Gay/lesbian/transgender etc. (LGBTQ) is wrong, just like everyone is free to say LGBTQ is not wrong. That’s why ModCloth allows the posts against this feature even though ModCloth want to support this feature. Also I don’t think there is double standard, it’s just one standard: whether a behavior harms the society. Crimes are banned and everybody’s fine with it, because crimes harm the society. LGBTQ is not banned, because our society consider it no harm. Discrimination against LGBTQ is banned, because it harms the society – discrimination makes LGBTQ people unhappy, when people are unhappy, they tend to cause trouble, our society want everybody to be happy and behave. Some people may think LGBTQ does harm the society and they are unhappy that the society doesn’t ban LGBTQ, well, sorry, the society decided those people’s unhappiness is trumped by LGBTQ’s happiness from not being discriminated and the peace it brings to the society.
Great piece! Rye is a gem. Hopefully you’ll also be restocking that Mewseum dress soon…
As if I needed more reasons to love Modcloth. This story is amazing and I hope you feature more extraordinary women in future! I have a lot of transgender friends and it means the world to me to see this on Modcloth x
Modcloth is seriously one of the most powerful companies. I love spreading the word about them and their continuous acts of kindness. Thank you for focusing on equality Modcloth. You have a customer for life. (:
I’m a huge fan of ModCloth and have been for years. I absolutely love the style and customer service I receive. Embracing diversity in this way has just cemented my love for this amazing shop!!
totally a dude
“I waited years for someone to tell me it was okay to be myself before I realized that someone was me.”
How incredibly powerful!! Thank you so much for sharing Rye’s story. This is why I will be a customer of Modcloth for as long as it is in business! I think this company is doing such amazing work to promote self-love. Rock on, Rye and Modcloth.
This is an amazing piece and I applaud both Modcloth and Rye! It’s sad to see a few haters come out of the woodwork but they are SO outnumbered by love! This says great things about Modcloth’s clientele. 🙂
I was surprised to see a transgendered person on your homepage. Pleasantly surprised. Bravo, ModCloth. I dig the vibe on your site and I’m proud to be a customer.
modcloth!!! thank you. thank you for proving that the girls like us can wear your dresses. thank you. thank you so much.
and to everyone in the comments being hateful, grow up. it’s rye’s life and she can live it however the fuck SHE wants.
I’ve been following Rye’s fashion for ages now. I’m so glad she has been featured on Modcloth and I send my best wishes for future success in her career. BTW Portland would be glad to have you.
This made my day. And seeing all the positive outpouring of support? Even better. Thank you, Rye and Mod Cloth. <3
Yeah Rye! Yeah Modcloth! Thank you so much for highlighting a fantastic, funny trans person. My 5 year old dress wearing son is constantly re-negotiating his sense of style and gender and what it means to be a “boy” or “girl” or something else. So so pleased to be able to share this article with my little person, and show him that he can be himself and dress however he pleases and be accepted when he shows his authentic self to the world, whatever that looks like. Thanks!
I am so glad you were featured!! You look amazing in every possible way. From one sister to another I think it is so important to speak our stories! On a non-gender note because we could chat all day on that, your fashion sense is so quirky cute and I absolutely adore the nautical dress!! I put my style galley link below too!! I just love Modcloth and will continue to be a long lasting customer. Amanda 🙂
I LOVE that modcloth is promoting Rye! AMAZING!
I have got to say, I have NEVER read a single spot light. I respect and love the fact that people get the recognition they deserve but in all of my hmm two year of being on the site, this is the first one I have read. I am no where near disappointed. This was a GREAT article. I love the way that Modcloth is going, from using REAL people for the modeling pictures for the clothes and now featuring a transgender for the spot light feature. All i have to say is round of applause Modcloth. Way to pave the way for others and show your followers that you can be and look any way and you still accept them.
I said earlier that I was overjoyed at the overwhelming positivity here. I see that some negativity has shown up. And there is at least one threat to not patronize the company. I think it’s pretty obvious that ModCloth need not worry. The closed-minded and the prejudiced are more and more in the minority – where they should be.
There is a song “10 Million People Can’t Be Wrong” but they can be. Majority and Minority has nothing to do with right and wrong or in this case the male and female human being. I hope we can keep this polite and lady-like. No name calling, bullying, or cutting one another down for owning up to the truth inside of us. Let’s try to be respectful and courteous.
I certainly don’t want to get into a fight, but cutting someone down for owning up to the truth inside of them is exactly what I was decrying. The fact that another’s appearance makes one uncomfortable is no reason to condemn that person’s presentation. My dear friend Rye’s appearance may fly in the face of accepted norms. Wonderful! I applaud that! I celebrate her. It is another step forward for those individuals whom the hive mentality cannot define. It is unfortunate that Emerson wrote in a more blatantly patriarchal time and that I have to paraphrase him but…
Whoso would be a [human], must be a nonconformist. He [or she] who would gather immortal palms must not be hindered by the name of goodness, but must explore it if it be goodness. Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind. Absolve you to yourself, and you shall have the suffrage of the world
Way to go Gillian! I agree with you in every way. If we all embrace our differences and are not hindered by social criticism, we are able to live a happier, more fulfilling life.
And this Emerson quote is an ideal that people should live by every day! 🙂
I really couldn’t sum it up better. It’s an amazing profile, and I applaud modcloth for showcasing a transgendered customer. As one, this was such a pleasant surprise. I honestly wasn’t expecting it. I recognize the risk they took and really do appreciate it. I’ve supported modcloth in the past, and will continue to do so in the future. For those who feel uncomfortable with this idea, or would prefer it not be showcases, it’s not important that I change your opinion. Think anything you want. Just remember what the original intent of modcloth is: be yourself, and find a way to express that. That’s all that really matters.
I was wondering about this woman because I’ve seen her on, like, every single piece I was interested in!
It’s a brave thing to truly be yourself…thank you for paving the way and bringing your delightfulness to the world.
Super happy to see Rye featured! I’m new to purchasing things from modcloth and I’m thrilled to see the company support LGBTQ folk. This dyke will definitely continue shopping here.
Rye ~ I’m so pleased for you! God has made you who you are, and you are absolutely beautiful. Best wishes, Elena
I will admit, I read this out of curiosity but I ended up crying because I am so happy for her! And she is way better at eye makeup than I am, but that is true about practically all of the Mod Stylists and the like 😉 I also am in love with her cat dress shown in the first photo!
I remember when I saw Rye on the style gallery for the first time, I thought it was very brave. I thought it was a wonderful article, and Rye seems like a nice person. Sad to see that people have to respond with nasty words, but glad to see that Modcloth is embracing individuality and diversity.
Kudos to Rye for being awesome, and kudos to Modcloth for being such an awesome company.
I am so happy for you being featured Rye! You seem like a wonderful person and it is so inspiring to see someone be true to who they are and have such a positive energy (also, I want to steal your closet…the cat dress I never ended up buying. Daily regrets). Also, thank you Modcloth for taking what some people would consider a business risk by letting Rye talk about her experiences, viewpoints, and style. I love that our society is continuing to become more accepting of people’s individualism and self-identity instead of surpressing or judging it. I remember not too long ago people could not even identify themselves as gay…let alone transgendered. So happy things are changing for the better. Best of luck Rye with the standup!
For a century it’s been okay for women to wear men’s clothes but not for men to wear women’s clothes. This is a bad thing because of the idea that women are less than men and men should not engage in things that signify femininity. I think guys who wear women’s clothes are doing something subversive and positive. I’m not gunna lie… he looks a bit odd at first glance. But that is because if no one has really done this before, of course it is by definition outside the norm. The more guys who dress like this become visible, the less unusual it will look. And one day in the future there will probably be guys wearing dresses all the time.
Love it, love your sense of style, everything! Congrats on being featured on Modcloth! <3
I just want to tell you Rye that based upon looking at your photos, style gallery, and reading your interview you are a beautiful woman inside and out. Your confidence, that i am sure you picked up over years of performing on stage shine through and your positivity is undeniable. Thank you for sharing your story and your eclectic sense of style with the Modcloth community, it was an inspiring way to start my day.
Thank you to Modcloth for always representing true diversity!
If you are in need of a truly uplifting and inspiring fashion truth about now how about a read or re-read of this one!
This should be refreshing!
No matter what anyone else’s perceptions are, clothes are about reflected one’s self to the outside world. Being who you are is being beautiful. This made me smile today. Go Modcloth. Go Rye. Here’s to a world of self love and loving others just as they are.
It’s wonderful to read the story behind your face! It’s nice to meet you Rye!
Love this! I’d seen some of Rye’s stuff in the Style Gallery before, and I adore the outfit she’s wearing in the third pic.
Also, for the handful of jerks in the comments who claim that they will stop shopping at ModCloth for featuring Rye, keep in mind that ModCloth has no shortage of loyal customers who shop at MC in part *because* the company is inclusive (although their awesome clothing doesn’t hurt!) Your loss.
THANK YOU ModCloth for featuring Rye. I am a little disappointed in the people who are sharing unkind comments and can’t keep their beliefs to themselves. Not everyone is religious and lives their lives that way! Live and let live. We are here to celebrate our confidence and fashion and life inspirations. Rye is just one of the unique flowers of the world, like all of us. <3
This is just clothing, nothing more,right? Does clothing have a gender? Wouldn’t it be easier to cover ourselves from the elements in sack cloth and be done with it? Or maybe we could all wear gender approved uniforms?
Thank you Modcloth for highlighting the human desire to feel good and express yourself with clothing. Thank you Rye for being true to what feels right for you. You are inspiring to those who believe any thing is possible. As for people who feel they know the truth this maybe concerning, even frightening. Maybe it is time to admit one size or one truth does not fit all.
You Rock! Stay True! Best Wishes!
Rye is awesome and so is ModCloth, which now has my forever support!
Glad to see that the comments for this wonderful interview are 99.99% supportive, and only 0.01% haterade, with the Modcloth community calling out those who decided to be ugly with their comments.
Rye, you look fabulous, thanks for sharing your story and your style!!!
yay!!! i’ve always loved rye’s posts on the style gallery, and she completely embodies the spirit of #fashiontruth. once again, modcloth has proven to be one of the best companies to give my money to. thanks to rye and modcloth for being awesome, and keep up your wonderful work!
I find this so unnatural looking, it is hard to even view. I came to this site to copy the URL to forward to someone who was buying clothing for their teenager. After seeing this, I cannot recommend the site. Modcloth wants people to be who they truly are…no pretense…be proud of it…well, this is truly a MAN in women’s clothing. That is who he is; A MAN.
When I have kids, I’ll teach them to accept everyone as who they are, and yes I’ll definitely show them ModCloth with this article about Rye, and tell them I’m so proud of Mod and Rye and that they should too respect companies and people like Mod and Rye. BTW I just want to say, I rarely leave comments online, yet I keep coming back here read people’s comments and reply. I don’t expect to change people’s opinions against this, I feel some people honestly think they benefit the society by ‘righting this wrong’ because of their beliefs acquired at very young ages from people that are very important to them, like raised by religious parents. My comments are for the people supportive of this too – I see Mod as a very lovely community that I’m proud to be part of, I just want to tell everybody else in this community that share supportive opinions with me: you guys have my support, I’m so proud of you guys, I hope we all stick together and make Mod a better place 🙂
This makes me feel uncomfortable.
Rye, it’s so inspiring to see you on the site! I’ve worked for ModCloth for 3 years, and our loving and inclusive nature is why I could see myself at this company ever longer. Keep rockin’ them styles, girl!!!
You rock, girl! You are amazing, keep doing what you’re doing 🙂
UUUGGGHHHHHHH You are killin it in that octopus dress, Rye. Please just adopt me and dress me as beautifully as you.
Go Rye! Go Modcloth! Very pleased to see all types of women represented here. Can someone please point me in the direction of the dress with the ships and the kracken? I can’t find it anywhere and – I’m going I want to steal your look, Rye!
Rye, thanks for sharing your journey with the ModCloth community!
So good to have you here, Rye!
YAY! A Rye feature! SO COOL! I love her outfits in the style gallery — so very cool to learn more about her.
And I’m happy-tears overwhelmed by the good sense and positivity of the ModCloth community. Proud to be a part of it!
I read this the other day and had some thoughts on it. First off, this is in no way meant to offend Rye. Rye, do your thing, I’m cool with that. I really feel like Modcloth choosing a transgender model is just a play for publicity and an attempt to further the company founders political veiws. Really, how much of the customer base is represented by a transgender model? I would guess that a larger percentage of the customer base would be represented by a senior citizen female model and yet I don’t see any models with wrinkles and grey hair. I also am certain that a considerable percentage of customers are young tween/teenagers yet they also remain unrepresented by Modcloth models. If only 0.3% of the American population identifies as transgender it would be safe to say that, no matter how fabulous Modcloths offerings are, an even smaller percentage shops with Modcloth. So Modcloth, when it comes to women, you really are not doing much different than Victoria’s Secret. Your are simply replacing one image that doesn’t represent your customers with another. In fact I would be willing to bet a lot more of Victoria’s Secrets customers look like their models than your customers look like Rye. But you sure know how to make headlines….
What ModCloth calls ‘models’ are their employees, Mod pay them to professionally present products on product pages and campaigns, they all look in their 20-30s – a much narrower age group than Mod’s customer base. I don’t blame Mod for doing this, I think this age group of Model provides the highest possibility to attract customers to buy Mod products, i.e. maximize the profit. No business would spend the money to make multiple models from different age groups present the same product. And that’s exactly why Mod created style gallery and programs like fashion truth – to encourage customers from diverse groups to present themselves. It’s the customers rather than Mod that determine who show up in style gallery, so there is nothing Mod can do about it. But I do hope Mod would keep what Sam said in mind and try to feature senior, teen and all other not-represented-yet customer types in programs like fashion truth.
First I believe Mod featured Rye out of the goodness of their heart. Even if they do want to attract attention, I don’t see a problem of attracting attention by doing good things, just like I don’t have a problem with celebrities doing charity for their PR campaign. And this feature certainly is worth my attention, I keep coming back here for like 3 days already 😛
Very refreshing and well made points, Sam. Thank you for sharing your insight and knowledge! I know Modcloth has made at least two layoffs in recent months.
I hope the Modcloth Community will take the time to read the other Fashion Truth Spotlights. I failed to leave comments on those, as well as did many others in the “Community”, but they truly warmed my heart!
I am so happy with this article. Rye has amazing fashion sense. I hope the stunning fashion helps her to rock her comedy career. I think Modcloth is amazing too – there is nothing like a vintage or vintage inspired piece to bump up your fashion, add some sophistication, and make a statement that is unforgettable.
Rye has made a choice with the direction he has taken and from what I understand is not quite fully committed to taking the critical steps necessary to physically become more like a woman. There are those who made such choices for various reasons to the extent Rye has, at the moment, and beyond. Some have felt driven or forced due to abuse and other circumstances to the point they “felt” there was no other choice they could be “at home” with or accepted for. Duty, love, devotion, loyalty, can become twisted and distorted through coercion and other means and methods. One analogy: In some families children are taught by example that it is fine to steal but, “be crafty and do not get caught”. Stealing is taught as an acceptable way to acquire necessities as well as wants and desires. The rational can be (for example) “they are American tourists. They are rich. They have more than they need. It will not hurt them to share with us”. Another example: “I work just as hard as the person who makes more. They’ll never miss it or they can quickly replace it.” They have a choice whether to steal or not. We all have temptations to do things we should not. We all have our reasons/excuses when we give into temptation. The courageous ones are those who break away from the deceptions.
Are you seriously comparing Rye’s choice to stealing? Her choice is not immoral in any way. I am disgusted that people think this way, that being homosexual or transgender is sinful.
Are you serious with that comment? First of all Rye is a SHE, not he. And the very idea you think that there are “critical steps” to identifying as a woman is disgusting.
The rest of your comment literally makes no sense. It’s just a bunch of pointless babbling with no cohesive statement and I’m not even sure what you’re trying to say.
Hate to break it to you, but we live in the 21st century, not the 1700s. I think its best you took your time machine and headed back there, where you belong.
As individuals of the human race we are not, for various reasons including background, beliefs, stage in life, clusters, cliques, etc. going to agree on what is, or is not, a weakness or a strength, courageous or cowardly, funny or disgusting, immoral or moral. We do have the right to voice our opinions, concerns, and beliefs. Apparently we have taken the right to pass judgement according to what “feels” right too. How much knowledge do we possess? How much wisdom in applying it? For an example, to do nothing more than simply illustrate differences: I loved Night at the Museum 3 but was disgusted and turned my head away when the monkey relieved himself on the two dudes. (The fact that I did that may be funny to some of you). My husband thought it was hilarious. Take a look at the Modcloth Style Gallery. You will find some styles you do not like at all, some you will perhaps want to use as a guide for your own style choices and others that you will find repulsive and still others that you find yourself doubled over in laughter because they strike you as very humorous. Some people make choices in how they dress because they feel there is not enough of smiles and laughter around us. Maybe it keeps the hop in their skip! Some crave attention and delight in turning heads; Others are in their own box, so to speak, and are fine with snickers and jeers. They understand they cannot change how others see them. Choices in clothing come with responsibility, consequences, and…hopefully confidence. On another note I am very disappointed that Modcloth has allowed swearing and foul language to be posted in this feed. “Your comment is awaiting moderation”? I do realize that Modcloth is run by young people but in the past I have found those that work for and represent Modcloth have had higher standards of respect and consideration for the entire “community”, not just a small segment of whom they probably relate to. I appreciate the insight and knowledge you shared in this feed, Sam. Thank you, Modcloth, for being transparent enough to share with us his comments! There is so much I love about this company!
So awesome to see this spotlight on Rye. It’s amazing to see the overwhelmingly positive comments. Thanks ModCloth for featuring her story.
Love this piece! I came across Rye in the style gallery ages ago and I don’t think featuring her story is a ploy to get PR attention by modcloth! If anything, it’s showing appreciation for customers and their unique styles. I think it’s smart and one of the many reasons there are so many loyal modcloth shoppers. Talk about building community 🙂 Go Rye!
Ah! Rye is a whovian! <3
I love Rye even more! Wish I had some of those clothes though. Very stylish!
Kudos to you and being your awesome self!
Rye is a courageous and beautiful creature. It saddens me to feel it necessary have to point those obvious facts out, but, here we are. Evolutionarily, over 200 non-human species have been scientifically observed in what we, as humans, with our penchant for labels describe as ‘gender fluid’ type of roles. Our tendency to label can be hurtful and exclusive, especially to those who don’t fit neatly into our little boxes. Scientific identification and labeling is one thing. Social labeling and constructs that deny equal access and opportunities to all people is destructive. Using a belief system to deny equal access and opportunities to all people isn’t an exercise of your religious rights. There is no belief system, whether religious or not, that justifies the outright or implied denial of equal opportunity of all people. Period.
No more LGBT brainwash, dear Modcloth. Please.
I’ve seen Rye’s photos around the site before and I am happy I got to know her story a little bit better 🙂 Best wishes to you in the future, Rye!!
Way to go ModCloth! Great spotlight. I didn’t know about Rye before, but I will be following her now. I really want to echo what she said about Trans women of color… the inability that people have to see gender as a spectrum (or human sexuality for that matter) is literally killing them. I have a dear friend and I pray for her safety daily.
I will no longer be shopping at ModCloth. It’s really upsetting to see this on the homepage. Why would women’s clothing being worn by a man appeal to me? No thanks.
Susan, I would rethink your sales strategy. Some customers may like this forward stance on gender, however there are a lot of people out there who do not agree with this, like myself. I feel very uncomfortable buying clothes from here anymore.
Rye, you are awesome, and may your life just continue to be and inspiration of everyone.
By the way. I live Vallejo, Ca it hits many of your settle down list my husband and I just moved here about two years ago. You would be welcome down here and you would be apart of building a community that needs amazing people like you.
In ModCloth’s quest for pristine political correctness, the other side of these so-called “transgender” stories are conveniently omitted. It’s taken 2 years, but I’ve decided to tell the flip side of this ugly scenario anywhere I can:
After 35 years of marriage, my husband decided that he was a woman and took some type of foreign pills purchased over the internet to give himself female breasts. (At least that’s what he claims.) When I found a lacy bra and high heel boots among his clothing, he denied that the bra was a bra and the boots were not high-heels (3″) and that I was imagining it! (What department did he think I”d been shopping in all my adult life?) He had been the president of a gay and “transgender” organization for several years while we were still married and put (and continues to put) filthy pictures of himself as “herself” on Facebook. He was offended when I when I angrily forced him to admit what was going on and said I was harrassing him!! When I asked what he thought the reaction of his wife of 35 years would be to such a monstrous action, his response was: “I never gave it any thought.”
He forces my adult children (now both in intense therapy) to use feminine pronouns regarding him and to publicly appear to accept their dad as a woman. My daughter is loathe to plan her wedding: How will she introduce the person in the strapless blue chiffon as her father? Will her wedding be a circus? At New Year’s, he sent out announcements to all our friends and my relatives inviting them to help “celebrate” his new identity and that beginning in the new year, to please refer to him only by his new female name. (Apparently, I was presumed to have dissolved into dust!) Some were angry and repulsed enough to “unfriend” him, but never told him, either in person or online, how they felt. Others, towed the line of political correctness and did indeed celebrate with him. They are of course, adults, free to associate with whom they please. And so am I. I don’t want to associate with people who “celebrate” the deceptive ego-maniac who kicked my children and myself in the teeth with such inhuman indifference in order to satisfy his depraved sexual fantasies.
I also don’t want to deal with a company that glorifies this demonic behavior and holds it up for hero worship. I am a genuine woman – with a woman’s intuition, guts and perception – and don’t need to share clothing with those make a game of “waffling” in their gender.
Two hundred years from now, if for some reason, someone should dig up my former husband’s bones and run a dna test on them, their conclusion will be: “This person was male.” There is no “spectrum”. God gave him the XY chromosomes and they’ll still be in every cell of his body when he dies. So ultimately, he failed and revenge is unnecessary. But telling the WHOLE truth, even though the world doesn’t want to hear it, is always necessary.
Anne, I am sorry that your family are going through this very difficult situation. I hope you and your loved ones will get through this and get better soon. I hope it helps to talk about it and get support from people.
Thank you, Anne, for sharing. Truly a sucker punch that Modcloth delivered with this spotlight. People, in general, may or may not be surprised how many families have been torn (and continue to be torn) by those thinking only of themselves and their “duty” to themselves in unnatural and “the devil may care” affection and relationships, (as well as other deeds of demolition). We have all been affected in a very hurtful and destructive fashion (and I will thank you not to pardon that pun). “It’s all about Me” is shouted from the rooftops! The traditional family unit is taking such a whip lashing. I read recently about young adults who were brought up by two females (one their mother) and the other by two males (one their father). Now that they are not required to “put on an act” they have come out with the sad truth of how difficult it was growing up and how their needs and considerations were way down the list of priorities. Canada now takes the “cat o’ nine tails to Christian Families to ensure the rights of those who are wrong (yes that is my tried and true platform and I am sticking to it.) Marriage is between a man and a woman, intimate relations outside of marriage is wrong. Significant others have the right to equal rights with housing, etc. but not with telling someone they have to be their photographer, make their cake, or provide for their so called “wedding”, etc. Evidently there are plenty of “confused about who they really are” professionals to take care of such things for them. They should have no say in reading material for the school systems when all they want to do is spread their lies so they can feel vindicated for their own choices. Sure, traditional families struggle too but there is so much that compounds the grief and scars with these “now you know me, now you don’t” type family members. It seems many who do not have a traditional family strive to find their own ways of appearing as a traditional family, but on their own terms (now you know very well I am not referring you single parents who know who they are). Everyone has a biological mother and father. Working with unselfishness for the good of all in a family unit brings about the most good and molds a strong God fearing society. By God fearing I am implying the fearing of what we have to lose; giving up our birthright for a mess of pottage. What if there is an after life? What have we lost if we have done the very best with truth, rather than the very best with our excuses and weaknesses? I guess like water we will seek our own level but will we truly be happy if we have fallen short of the truth deep within, that we snuffed out under our defiantly selfish foot? The fashion Truth here is that Rye is a Guy in a dress. Please, no more lies, Modcloth; and please, no more insults to our intelligence.
I’m sorry you went through this, it must have been hard, however your attitude is probably the reason he kept it from you for so long. ‘Demonic behaviour’ really? YOUR attitude to this has actually shown your true colours, far more than your outed ex-husband’s. You are a disgusting example of a human being. I hope your ex-husband is happier now, and quite frankly, if you suffer the rest of your life, you brought it on yourself with your horrific attitude towards transgender and homosexual people. Throw out the Bible and embrace the 21st Century.
This makes you sound like a terrible person, Jess. Her husband deceived her for 35 years. That’s messed up whether it was because he was gay/trans or not. The LBGTQ community does not need support from people like you.
I’ve always tried to support Rye, and what I say next does not change that. But Anne is clearly going through tremendous emotional trauma, we can disagree with her, but I won’t call her disgusting, that’s hurtful. Just like if you see people get physically injured, even if you think it’s their own fault to get hurt, you would still try to help them heal instead of hurting them even more.
Also I don’t think it’s Anne’s fault that she’s hurting. She lost a husband of 35 years, her children lost their dad as a man, he’s not the one they used to know anymore, anyone would feel deeply hurt over losing a loved one. And he did lie to his family for 35 years, even though we understand that he lied because of the pressure from family and society, but he still lied, he still made their life of the past 35 years a lie, and wasted her 35 years during which she could have found someone right for her, that must hurt her terribly too. It’s normal for her to be angry at him, I would be angry too if I were hurt that bad. I just hope time would heal their wounds so they would move on.
well as Philip pointed out below, some people may take some time to discover themselves. Maybe the husband didn’t lie to Anne for 35 years, maybe in the earlier years of their marriage he didn’t feel he was a woman. Just like many couples deeply love each other when they get married, didn’t realize they’d end up in a divorce later. I apologize for being harsh. But then ‘He had been the president of a gay and “transgender” organization for several years while we (they) were still married’. That is no excuse any more. He still lied, maybe for shorter, but still lied, and hurt people. He lied at best like a straight guy lying to his girlfriend that he still loves her when he doesn’t, because he doesn’t want to hurt her. I don’t support this type of behavior, even though I understand the dilemma people face when they make decisions like that; if I ever lie like that, then I don’t support my own behavior either. All I’m trying to do is to console the people that are hurt and need support. The husband didn’t post in here so I didn’t try to console him, I apologize if that looks mean. If he really comes and needs support I’ll console him 😛
alright, I gave more thoughts to this and I apologize for not acknowledging how difficult it was for Anne’s husband to come out of the closet. From the fact that they were married for 35 years, I assume they grow up in the time when the society was much more hostile against LGBTQ than nowadays, there were probably horrible crimes where people got physically hurt just because they were LGBTQ (sorry I didn’t thoroughly research into this because the stories were too heartbroken to read). So the fear LGBTQ people have to live in back then would probably make it very difficult for them to come out, even when the society is getting more friendly, that type of fear may still haunt people that grew up with it. I won’t be surprised if it has to take decades for someone to accumulate enough courage to come out. Anne and her husband (and people like them) shouldn’t be blamed for situations like this, it’s the historical social hostility against LGBTQ that’s responsible, and who’s responsible for that is a complicated history / sociology question…
Wow, I see a lot of reverse bullying in these comments. I can’t believe the outrage expressed whenever anyone posts a negative comment. I am reading comments by people who are “disgusted” by those who consider homosexual behaviour sinful. Isn’t THAT kind of judgmental? On the one hand you defend Rye’s freedom of expression, but in the next breath you deny others their freedom of religion. At least be consistent. Where’s your tolerance for people with different beliefs? Or do you just tolerate those you agree with? You sympathize with Rye for the terrible name-calling she’s endured and then you turn around and call someone a bigot because they believe in traditional gender roles – how hypocritical. Whatever happened to “being the change you want to see”?
nobody’s bullying anybody, just sharing their thoughts. Mod posted an article, everybody’s free to make positive or negative comments, likewise everybody’s free make negative comments against negative comments, just like you are making negative comments against neg. com. against neg. com., it goes on and on and on. There’ll never be an end if one’s trying to point fingers.
Thank you for representing the logical portion of this conversation.
I have been reading every comment, but what’s interesting is noting the double standard when it comes to the acceptance of another’s opinion. Like you said, many people lose their supposed openmindedness when presented with an opposing belief, and this goes for all political and religious affiliations.
If we could all see this issue from the opposition’s point of view, and if we could all let people live the life they want, provided they aren’t violating anyone else’s rights, we really all would be a lot happier.
Remember: Freedom of speech works both ways.
I hope and pray that someday Rye will indeed come to grips with the genuine human being he came to earth to be and that he will pick up the pieces of what his true mission on earth and service to his fellowmen (and women) is and follow that path. I look forward with hope to seeing him “as he is trying to be the best version of himself”.
The following is a coy/paste found on Daily Mail
‘The real hope around this is that we are putting the idea in everyone’s heads that every size and shape and body, every single person – every woman – is just beautiful,’ ModCloth employee-turned-model Christen DiClaudio said of the campaign at the time.
‘And as long as she is trying to be the best version of herself, which we say a lot here at ModCloth, that’s perfect. We hope that this is eventually the regular mindset in our society: that the best version of yourself is the best version there is.’
There is a lot of ignorance on display in the comments here, so allow me to enlighten commenters (on both sides).
A dress or skirt is not exclusively a female garment. It is just a few metres of cloth cut and sewn together. Similar types of garment are worn by men all over the world, the Scots with their kilts, Asians with their shalwars, kurtas etc.
Kaftans were originally a male item, though they are now mostly marketed to women. The recently deceased Greek superstar Demis Roussos used to wear them.
In the US and Europe dresses were standard wear for small boys until about a hundred years ago, and it appears that it may become fashionable again for them to wear them.
There are also men who are campaigning for the right for men (as men) to wear skirts (and similar garments)
In your attempt to “skirt” the issue at hand you omitted the facts of the majority of males in our day and age. We cannot ignore what stands out as defiance of a male human being walking the streets posing as a female human being. This is disturbing around the globe (more common in some places like Portland but I am hoping there are still more men who dress like men than women). We are not highlighting ethnic/traditional costumes for cultural events, pageants, dance performances or parades, weddings or other ceremonies, nor are we highlighting a past day and age. I am sure you will find tights, knickers, cravats and adorned with buckles and bows men’s shoes difficult to find on the feet of citizens walking the streets of anywhere in the world. This is true of kilts or what have you, even in Scotland. You may keep a tab of a few exceptions but it would be unfair to include the every day wear such as monk robes of a monastery or loin cloths, or grass skirts of an indigenous tribe, etc. The globally accepted men’s wear may change sometime in the distant future when we have all become dust but a handful of males dressing like females does not meet the acceptable standard in this day and age, with the exception of a few who rally round the spectacles. One doesn’t need to do a world tour; Just try some Travel DVDs and Documentaries. Try flipping TV channels, thumbing through magazines, dress patterns in a fabric store, women’s clothing online if you need more proof. Keep a tab of all those fashionable men in women’s clothing! If you are a man dressed as a man in a kilt in Russia you may be fine, but I would not suggest dressing as a woman if you are a man (no matter how you feel on the inside). If, in the future, men dress in dresses, and it is the norm, not rocking the cruise ship, or causing confusion at the airport, etc. everyone will understand and no one will be deceived. People like Rye will just have to be creative in finding some other way to get attention, fame and praise, because….a dress won’t make the cut.
According to Wikipedia (take it or leave it) three quarters of the world’s population wears skirts. Outside of Western cultures, men’s clothing commonly includes skirts and skirt-like garments; however, in North America and much of Europe, the wearing of a skirt is today usually seen as typical for women and girls and not men and boys, the most notable exceptions being the cassock and the kilt. People have variously attempted to promote the wearing of skirts by men in Western culture and to do away with this gender distinction, albeit with limited general success and considerable cultural resistance. Nearly every human society throughout history has expected distinctions to be made between males and females by the style, color, or type of clothing they are expected to wear, and likewise most societies have had a set of social norms, views, guidelines, or even laws defining what type of clothing is appropriate for each gender.
Don’t understand what the big deal is one way or the other. The only thing that’s amazing is how “amazed” and “inspired” and “outraged” people are.
The guy feels like a woman, likes to wear women’s clothes but doesn’t want to go all the way. His ambiguous look may be a bit perplexing, but so what? There are worse thing in this life…has anyone seen the news lately?
I hope and pray that someday Rye will indeed come to grips with the genuine human being he came to earth to be and that he will pick up the pieces of what his true mission on earth and service to his fellowmen (and women) is and follow that path. I look forward with hope to seeing him “as he is trying to be the best version of himself”.
‘The real hope around this is that we are putting the idea in everyone’s heads that every size and shape and body, every single person – every woman – is just beautiful,’ ModCloth employee-turned-model Christen DiClaudio said of the campaign at the time.
‘And as long as she is trying to be the best version of herself, which we say a lot here at ModCloth, that’s perfect. We hope that this is eventually the regular mindset in our society: that the best version of yourself is the best version there is.’
Thank you for this! I’m really appreciative of how Modcloth is such an inclusive company and space for all women.
Thoughtful interview, truly inspiring interviewee, awesome style! You’re the coolest, Rye. Thanks for sharing 🙂
My daughters and I are finished shopping at ModCloth. I know we won’t be missed and that’s fine. We’ll just be over here living in reality, where men are men, not women and they continue to look ridiculous in dresses.
Allow me to be the first to welcome you to the 21st century, Jennifer N.! There’s no use sheltering yourself from people you deem different. Because the “reality” is that LGBTQ people like Rye live amongst you. And they have the same right to present their authentic selves as you and your daughters do (regardless of how superficial, close-minded bigots rate their attractiveness in dresses). It’s disheartening that voices like yours seem content to look the other way, rather than educate themselves on gender identity issues.
ModCloth might have lost a customer in you today, but they gained a fan in me. Thank you for celebrating diversity with this feature, MC!
New fashion icon! How cute does she dress?
You are beautiful, for you are fearfully and wonderfully made…
To quote Marilyn Monroe: Everyone’s a star and deserves the right to twinkle. You were made exactly like you are for a reason! Twinkle on and shine!
I’m a teacher in Alabama so I see others in your situation. It hurts me so to see anyone hurt for being what they are. Through the years I’ve seen 3 students finally accept themselves.
Recently I saw a young man that I taught when he was in first grade. He has turned out to be the most beautiful person. He had his boyfriend with him and I could tell he didn’t know how I would react. I just told him I knew when he was in my classroom. He was surprised I said that. I saw him as a different and wonderful little man. And I told him I’m glad to see how great and happy he turned out!
I teach 5th grade now and last year I had a student that I saw the same way. Unfortunately, others saw the different but not the wonderful in him. Many of the kids started calling him names. I VERY MUCH DISLIKE UNKIND PERSONALITIES and I didn’t want him feeling alone and hurt. I pulled him to the side and told him to be who he is and don’t let anyone make him feel less than perfect. I also told him even if he is gay I still love him dearly and he is important.
One of my very best friends is gay… I have a son about his age. I told him if my son was gay I’d so fix them up!!!! He isn’t and I have a beautiful grand baby so I guess it isn’t going to happen.
Anyway, be yourself. You never know the influence you may have on others. ????
Tricia, you are an awesome teacher, I hope there are more teachers like you, so our kids can all grow up healthy and happy 🙂
I could care less what Rye wants to wear, but it worries me how willing people are to support and fight for someone they don’t even know. Rye could be a terrible person, but since Rye is LBGTQ or whatever and *seems* cool/funny/fashionable/nice on the INTERNET, he/she is a poor, innocent, defenseless (yet, somehow brave…) creature that must fought for at all costs whether the people defending Rye are right or wrong. I believe LBGTQ people deserve to live happy lives if they are good people, but I’m not interested in their business and don’t understand why their personal choices must be sold to me. I am positive that if I were a lesbian, I would find these sorts of patronizing articles annoying and would be embarrassed to be a part of the LBGTQ community. But I’m sure I’m wrong about that, since I’ve never been a lesbian and have no earthly idea what it’s like to feel judged or treated unfairly for being different… because only LBGTQ people know what that feels like, right?
That is a very good point. Maybe, I just got my mom breeches on and took up for him. He could be a terrible person. Let’s hope not!! To me there is nothing worse than being a bad or mean person.
I think you’re missing the point, Kimmie. Trans/gender queer people have been misunderstood, maligned, marginalized and largely invisible for too long. And comments like yours only reinforce that. ModCloth is bringing visibility to a subset of the population that many are still struggling to understand. And Rye telling her truth is, indeed, ver brave, particularly considering how society still views trans people (see: all the hateful comments cropping up right here).
Did you know that LGBT kids are 4 times more likely to attempt suicide than their straight peers? Consider the positive impact spotting Rye in a space like this could make to, say, a transgender teen struggling with their own identity. Those kids *need* to see mirrors of themselves in the media to understand that, yes, acceptance is possible. Happiness is possible. And you are NOT alone.
So to me, wondering whether Rye is a “terrible person” seems pretty silly. Would your standards be that stringent if this was a feature on someone with a disability? Would you need a background check and three valid forms of ID in order to celebrate a straight/heteronormative model? I think not.
Ahhh! Is that octopus dress available?
First committing to untouched model photos, and now this awesome interview? Modcloth, this is why you’re my favourite. Love it. Rye seems like a lovely person, and she has an excellent sense of style to match that sense of humour.
It doesn’t matter who you are, someone will always find fault. Just remember that for every grumpy bigot out there threatened by your courage, there are a whack-load of people on your team.
Thank you, Rye, for sharing your thoughts with us! I always wanted to know more about you. Our taste in clothes are very similar and I’ve always enjoyed seeing your pictures wearing things I planned to buy!
And, thank you, Modcloth, for this interview. This is why I shop from you, although living outside the US and paying almost double for everything. It’s very nice to know that this is a company so well aligned with everything I cherish and believe in.
Have been following Rye for some time now – have always loved the outfits, and am so happy to find such a thoughtful and lovely-seeming person behind it all. If you ever make your Ireland trip give a shout, Rye, and we’ll get a pint!
I would have been surprised if the topic of gender identity generated no difference of opinion, but the tone of some of the commentary here borders on vitriolic.
Human beings are creatures of habit and we are most comfortable when events conform to our expectations. Certainly, we were all raised to expect men and women to have heterosexual partners and to align their respective gender identities to the genders assigned at birth. But for many of us, it doesn’t work that way. Some men and women are attracted to members of their same sex; some biological males identify as females and vice-versa.
These phenomena are no less “natural” because God causes them to occur relatively infrequently. To suggest that anyone deny his or her true sexuality or gender identity to meet others’ expectations or avoid giving offense is absurd. Yes, it is sad Anne’s former husband was not the person she believed she married. But one can feel sympathy for the disruptive nature of the circumstances Anne describes without necessarily condemning the ex-husband. Does she really believe her ex-husband “owes it” to her to go on pretending? Many people require years to discover their true selves, in part because they grow up in a world in which suppression of nonconventional feelings is expected. I recall attending a social gathering many years ago at the home of a man I did not know. It was an extraordinarily beautiful home and my girlfriend and I were provided with a short tour by a man (not the owner) who appeared to be acting as a host. We saw evidence of children, yet it was clear our tour guide was the owner’s partner. Later during the party we met the owner’s former wife and realized the owner, not untypically, lived a part of his life as this woman’s husband, only to ultimately determine he was gay. No doubt, more than a little pain and hurt feelings arose from such events, but here they all were, friendly and mutually supportive.
Neither Gender identity nor sexual orientation are trivial matters to be cast aside for the convenience of others. Nor are such attributes indicia of moral character (or a lack thereof), any more than eye or skin color. One can argue the merits of Mod Cloth’s decision to feature Rye, but the suggestion of some that Rye has merely elected to pursue an offensive “lifestyle” (what an insipid term) insults our collective intelligence.
Definitely need to listen to some of Rye’s comedy! She’s truly inspirational. ModCloth, thank you so much for spotlighting her, and for actually asking her intelligent, thought-provoking questions about trans* issues, instead of glossing over that part of her life.
Well, guess I won’t be shopping on Modcloth any longer. HE does not look very good in those dresses.
sorry for keep leaving comment and take up space 😛 but all the discussion here help me learn different points of views of people and refine my own thoughts, I’m grateful for that 🙂
I don’t understand the transgendered folks who insist that you call them what they are not.. If I showed you a picture of a dog, but insisted it was a cat, no matter how many times I called it a cat, it is in fact a dog. “He” is not a “She”, no matter how many times you call him that. if HE wants to wear women’s clothing, that’s his business. But don’t try to be something that you are not.
I like how comments that differ from the majority here (like mine), are deleted. Way to stand up for diversity & different views—–unless that view is different than yours.
You don’t seem to get it. When a transgender woman refers to herself as a “woman,” she is speaking of her gender identity – her “mental gender,” for lack of a better phrase. No one is asking you to ignore biological gender. What you and like-minded commentators seem to suggest is that gender identity, if different from biological gender, is to be ignored: transgender people should accept their birth-assigned genders to avoid offending you. To me, that suggestion is equivalent to asking a lesbian to realign her sexual orientation to conform with the heterosexual majority.
Yes we do get it Philip, and we feel it is unnatural, and morally wrong to go ahead and give into. We believe in virtues and vices and have clear definitions and beliefs of what those are. Nothing you say will change that for us. You will need to continue to seek for support from those who believe as you do. We also realize that much good (aside from these specific personal choices) for society is being accomplished by people who believe as you do but we draw the line when it comes to this. It does nothing to promote strong families which make for strong societies. It breeds nothing but more confusion, disorientation, lack of trust and contention. I believe we were all born with the light of Christ and that experiences and choices can lead us in the opposite direction and cause us not to rely on God anymore but to become a god unto ourselves.
Rye, you are an inspiration.
ModCloth, you just earned my and several of my friends’ loyalties.
Thanks all around for being beautifully human.
Amazing! And this is why Modcloth will have my business forever! Love you guys!!!
Hi I just wanted to say this interview was very uplifting to read. I went on Modcloth today to buy a dress but had to hit the back button when I recognized Rye’s picture. I’m so so so happy a trans girl was featured. Being a trans person myself, I’m always glad to see some representation, especially since all we get from the media are recycled stereotypes (if anything at all…). I’ve never read one of the “Spotlight” articles before now, but I’m happy I read this one. Thanks ModCloth for including all types of girls on your site; you’ve really made my day!
U B U and I’ll be me…
Rock on Rye
Mom said it best..mind your own business, if you have nothing nice to say, keep your mouth shut, and love yourself
I always enjoy scrolling through the Style Gallery and have always enjoyed seeing Rye’s fashion choices. Thank you so much for sharing her story! It is really nice to put a story to the face. And the perfect place does exist! Vancouver, Canada! Rye, you would be welcome here any time!
You all miss-typed….HE. I’m sorry that you all are so ignorant about the difference between a male and a female. You had better go back to biology and anatomy.
I am sorry, but this is man, not a woman. Please quit glamorizing this kind of behavior.
Your clothing is designed from a time that men were men, and women were women. You are contradicting your merchandise.
What happened to “good old fashioned values”?
I’m very ashamed to read through some of these comments. I can’t believe the outrage in some. Many cis-people don’t understand trans-people and that’s fine, but you need to allow other people to be themselves. It’s not hurting you, so therefore why must you have an opinion – ESPECIALLY if you can’t understand or put yourself in their shoes.
Absolutely love Rye’s style! Also, you can totally drop a Shure 58 mic. They’re made for it. 🙂
I am celebrating the last day of this month’s Fashion Truth! It will be over at midnight! As New York Times columnist David Brooks said: “People are not better off when they are given maximum personal freedom to do what they want. They’re better off when they are enshrouded in commitments that transcend personal choice—commitments to family, God, craft and country.” (“The Age of Possibility”, New York Times, Nov. 16,2012, A 35)
My wardrobe has been pretty complete as of late, so I haven’t bought anything from ModCloth in a while, but seeing this article prompted me to buy several things, specifically so I could show my support of ModCloth, and ModCloth’s support of Rye. It was pretty great to find that one of my favorite fashion purveyors is also awesomely inclusive. Thank you, ModCloth! And thank you for being a role model, Rye, and having the guts to be you in a not always supportive world.
YES! To everything about Rye! Ignorance is a choice. Gender identity is not. Be who you are Rye and know that you are overwhelmingly supported and accepted. Anyone who would deny you that has bigger issues to resolve.
Amazing story…. Rye we love you, your style and selection of clothes here at Bellissima.
I adore her style! She’s WONDERFUL! And beautiful! I want to be her friend! <3
This makes me very sad because HE clearly needs medical help and is not going to seek or receive it because people are encouraging his mental illness. If an extremely thin person is convinced they are fat, we don’t encourage them to starve themselves. If a person is convinced they are an animal or a celebrity, we do not encourage that belief, we get them medical treatment for their disorder. This problem of believing you are of a different sex is no different, and I really don’t understand those that don’t want to help him. I’ve been a ModCloth customer for many years, but we now have to part ways. I can’t in good conscience support this. Also, seeing a man model dresses does not make them appealing to me.
Thank you for posting, Wendi. It has been so disheartening to see such behavior rewarded, praised and “set up on a pedestal” by Modcloth, patrons of Modcloth, and some that just come to here to post their comments in favor of such nonsense. Devastating that this is being pushed into the lives of youth and children as decency.
Rye has a mental disorder (gender dysphoria) and instead of celebrating HIS illness, we need to call it like it is. He was created male and despite his attempt to negate his gender, he will always be male. Putting women’s clothing on or doing gender reassignment will never change that. Praying for all the people who genuinely believe they are gay or Transgender ed. Also for this modern wave of support for these individuals. They need mental help, not widespread acceptance.
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