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I recently threw all caution to the wind and bought myself a crop top. As I’ve discussed before, I’m someone who sports a stomach that’s far from flat or mark-free — someone who generally would never be considered the type of person who could “pull off” a crop. And yet, I did it. After much consideration, I marched into a store in the mall and bought the cutest one I could find. I put it on, determined to show the world that my body is nothing for me to be ashamed of — to be blatantly fat in a time where we tend to see tidy hourglass shapes in commercial media.
I was scared. I spent the first few minutes after putting on my crop turning in front of my mirror, wondering if the tiny stippling of my stretch marks was too evident for public display. Then I remembered, as I always do in the end, that even just existing as a fat person some days can seem problematic for the public and, inhaling, told myself that someone had to do it, so it might as well be me. So I did it in a place I was safe: my work environment.
I garnered some of my outfit inspiration and confidence from GabiFresh and Jay Miranda, who kill it in their crops.
I started small. My first crop-sporting was a layered one – I put a button-down over the crop and tied it at my waist, so I could cover up if I needed. I ended up doing so – but later at the bar, when I got chilly. The other benefit to a button-up is that you can always just leave one button at the end and just make a little knot if you need to ease into it. It’s super-easy to modify to your comfort level.
It only takes one positive experience to make it – and one negative to break it. I sported the crop around town next, out to a networking event for writers, then back the few blocks to my car in one of the more bar-laden areas in town. I didn’t get so much as a catcall, even though my stomach and rolls were on display. But I know, as confident as I was — as blatant my bravado — it would have only taken one call of “gross” to take me down. And that’s okay – the act of putting myself out there was what I wanted to achieve. Because every time you put yourself out there, you get a little braver the next time.
It’ll never feel effortless, but it gets easier, and the confidence you’ll have in your ability to go out and do it will grow, and that makes it worth it.
+ When was the last time you sported something that you were under-confident about at first? What was it, and how did you feel?
confidence, crop tops, plus size
yes, girl! you are such an inspiration.
You look incredible! Go, girl! 🙂
I hope some day to be as brave as you are…. weight and age are not on my side, but I dream of beginning to love myself more…. some day. Thanks for lighting the way, a step at a time.
I totally agree, just the act of being like “i’mma gonna wear this!” is so liberating. I think it gets easier the more you do it. So i’ve been told… 😉
Earlier today I tried on a bikini with high-waisted bottoms for probably the first time in my adult life and in my head I knew I looked perfectly acceptable, but at the same time I was so nervous that someone would say something negative and utterly crush me with it that I decided I should probably return it. I think I’ll give it another chance. Thank you. Btw, you look great. ^_^
Yes! I am loving crop tops! I’ve been wearing them on a fair bit, even though it’s winter here in Australia and I’ve actually had a few compliments! As a size 20/ 22 woman, I never thought that I would get to this stage of body acceptance, but I’m loving the fashion it’s opened me up to!
You are beautiful. Wear it with pride xoxo
This is so inspirational! As a plus size gal, I cannot say thank you enough for being brave and posting this. You ROCKED those cropped tops! I need to get some soon! 🙂
lady, thank you so much for posting this. As someone who is always unsure of my confidence levels about my own body, I love seeing a gorgeous woman strut her stuff with pride! You are beautiful and I can’t wait to maybe try my own crop top out!
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